When you hire a Life Coach, you ought to get the biggest bang for your buck. The best way to do that is to go into your first session prepared with a well-formed outcome. What is a well-formed outcome? It’s knowing what you want.
When you plan a vacation you don’t say, “I don’t want to go to Florida.” “I don’t want to go to Washington.” “I don’t want to go to Kansas.” You start by listing the places you DO want to go. It’s the same with Coaching. A well-formed outcome is stated in the positive: “I want to be healthy,” rather than, “I want to quit smoking.” “I want to feel loose and flexible in my shoulders,” rather than, “I want to stop being stressed.” Hear the difference?
The next check to see if your outcome is well-formed is to see if you have any control over it. A well-formed outcome is one you can influence. “I want my husband to stop nagging me,” is not a well-formed outcome. “I want to learn resourceful ways of responding to my husband when he nags,” is much better.
Next, you want to be sure to know how to recognize when you have achieved your goal. Many people start to succeed in getting what they want, but because they haven’t put an action plan in place that will inform them they’re beginning to get it, they keep plugging away at their goal unnecessarily and end up in therapy for years.
Finally, there is an important check and balance called ecology. Ask, “Could getting this outcome get me into any trouble?” Making changes in your life don’t only affect you. They affect your loved ones, friends, and co-workers. Your unconscious may have objections that need to be surfaced and worked out before a change can be made so that all parts of you are in agreement before a change can be made.
A skilled Life Coach, like those at www.achievewellnesscenter.net can help navigate through all these steps in person and remotely. Give us a call!
By Jason Hersh